Separate, yet similar goals

Well today it dawned on me that she and I have different goals over the next several months/years.  What also occurred to me is that they are kind of symbiotic.  5 years ago when we lived in the ATL our lives were very different.  We didn’t have “goals”.  We got into shape, that’s it, big woop.  That doesn’t embrace the aspects of the life we now have.  To say we are going to do “1″ thing together is a thing of the past.

As she begins to share her coupon madness with our friends, she’s found something she enjoys and has made a hobby out of it.  Through that hobby we can move towards debt freedom and break those chains.  The ultimate financial goal for us is to be able to purchase with cold hard cash (if at all possible).  What about me?  I need something personal to strive for as we both embark on our journey towards debt demolition.  Well I’ve found it!

I’ve already told her that she doesn’t have to do anything to make me think that she is already more beautiful than she is.  Ok, say that sentence 10 times.  GO!  In short, I only wanted her company on our fitness journey but her goal isn’t fitness.  I’m not saying I’m going to be buff hardcheese but I want to be in shape.  I have valid reasons, particularly 2 reasons, one almost 5 years old and the other approaching 1 year.  Yes, I want the energy to keep up with my two boys.  I don’t wanna be a slob and make an imprint on the couch on a sunny Saturday afternoon.  By the way, I took the pre-5 year old, yes, pre-5, to play golf with me.  That was exciting for him!

Ok so what am I getting at.  It’s midnight and I’m babbling.  The point is that I want to journal my progress and what better way than… a blog!?  Hey I can host multiple domains with unlimited DBs on this bad boy hosting plan, I’m getting my 9.95/mo. worth!  It will hold me accountable and a sort of semi-public way.  I have tried to do this a couple of times but not exactly in the way I’m going to do it this time.  I’ve spent a lot of time over the past couple of years doing things for others on this here interweb.  Damn it I’m doing something for myself!

So pretty soon I’ll have yet another blog for you to link to and I want to do something really cool after the 12 week day to day incremental updates.  Ok, seriously tired now.  Beds to be made and maids to be bedded *rimshot*.  (MST3K joke…)

The trap

Traps are things that we don’t see and end up falling into. We all do it and sometimes it’s not entirely our own doing. I’m guilty of falling into my own traps every other day it seems. Several years ago I had a hernia repair and then two subsequent ‘patch up’ surgeries. I still suffer from pain in that area though it’s not as bad it’s still annoying. My biggest fear is injuring myself and having to go under the knife.

Mind you that’s my personal biggest fear, not biggest overall. As a parent and husband there are other fears that severely trump this one.

Back to the story though…

Well the trap is that every time I get that pain, I want to give up. I want to give up my fitness goals. It’s very taxing on the midsection for a lot of workouts. A lot of times I just try to ignore the sensation of pain. At the end of the day I sit in my chair and I can’t run from it anymore.

I have a counter for it though. My plan is to set it aside and deal with it when necessary. I want to meet my goals and go from there. If it’s so unbearable then I’ll go get it taken care of. If it’s the same, I’ll deal with it. Either way, I’m better off than sitting here sulking about it. Oh damn, was I sulking? Ok, to start off I was but think of it as creative writing. Drama! Suspense! Eh, maybe not.

The point is that every day we have new challenges and we have old ones that just won’t go the hell away. It’s how we deal with them that make us who we are.

~js~